Are you single and ‘outside,’ navigating a dating world that feels like a maze of highs, lows, and heartbreaks? Maybe you’re stuck in a relationship that looks good on the surface but leaves you questioning if this is really love. Or perhaps you’re waiting on God for your spouse, but the enemy keeps tempting you with counterfeit options that seem almost good enough.
WALKING AWAY TO WALK TOWARD HIM
If any of this resonates , this post is for you.
Jill Scott’s timeless lyrics from ‘Slowly, Surely’ speak to a journey many of us know all too well. You can listen here.
‘I walk away from that old desperate and dazed love… Caught up in the maze of love, that crazy craze of love—thought it was good, thought it was real, thought it was, but it was not love.’
Jill Scott, “Slowly, Surely”
At 16, I sang those words with all the conviction of someone who hadn’t yet lived them. But at 40, I understand. Walking away from unhealthy love isn’t just an act of self-respect—it was the start of a spiritual journey toward God’s everlasting love.
Jeremiah 31:3-4 reminds us of this promise:
‘I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore, I have continued my faithfulness to you. Again I will rebuild you, and you shall be built.’
If you’re caught in the maze of counterfeit love, it’s not too late. Slowly, surely, you can walk away and step into the arms of the One whose love is faithful, healing, and complete.
The Counterfeit Maze: Confusion, Broken Promises, and the Illusion of Love
Let’s be real—sometimes love feels less like a fairytale and more like a game of emotional hide-and-seek. You think you’ve found something good, only to end up more confused, more hurt, and more drained than when you started. Sound familiar?
Jill Scott nailed it in Slowly, Surely:
“…Caught up in the maze of love, that crazy craze of love—thought it was good, thought it was real, thought it was, but it was not love.”
Beloved, I lived those words. For years, I stayed in a relationship that I knew wasn’t right. He couldn’t give me all of himself—literally, because he was already married. But I convinced myself that the little crumbs he offered were enough to satisfy my hunger for love. Some days, it felt good. Most days, it didn’t. Deep down, I knew it wasn’t real love. But I stayed because I didn’t want to face the fear of being alone.
And that’s how counterfeit love gets you—it’s just enough to make you stay, but never enough to make you feel whole. It’s love dressed up like the real thing, but underneath? It’s confusion, heartbreak, and disappointment on repeat.
The thing is, love isn’t supposed to feel like this. Love isn’t a maze where you’re left wandering, looking for answers that never come. Love—real love—gives clarity. It lifts you up, not tears you down.
Paul lays it all out in 1 Corinthians 13: real love is patient, kind, and steady. It doesn’t play games or make you question if you’re enough. It doesn’t live in the shadows or divide its loyalty. And when you’re in it, you know.
Counterfeit love, though? That’s the enemy’s playground. He wants to keep you trapped in relationships that drain you, so you never discover the love that truly fills you. But God’s promise in Jeremiah 31:3-4 hits different:
“I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore, I have continued my faithfulness to you.”
God’s love doesn’t confuse. It clarifies. It doesn’t break you; it rebuilds you. And it doesn’t come with conditions—it’s steady, faithful, and full of grace.If you’re sitting in a relationship that feels like a maze, let me tell you something: you don’t have to stay there. You can leave. Slowly, surely, you can take those steps toward the love God has for you—a love that’s the real deal.
God’s Everlasting Love: The Real Deal You’ve Been Searching For
Here’s the thing about walking away from counterfeit love—it’s not just about leaving something bad behind. It’s about walking toward something so much Greater.
For years, I was out here chasing love that left me feeling half-empty and questioning my worth. I thought I needed someone to complete me, but honestly? What I really needed was to be rebuilt. And only God could do that.
Jeremiah 31:3-4 reveals three powerful truths about God’s love:
- It’s Everlasting
God’s love isn’t here one day and gone the next. It doesn’t depend on how good you’ve been or how much you’ve got it together. His love is steady, unchanging, and eternal—everlasting. - It’s Faithful
Even when we’re out here chasing the wrong things, God doesn’t give up on us. He’s patient. He’s faithful. And He’s waiting for us to realize that His love is the one we’ve been looking for all along. - It Rebuilds
Maybe you’ve been torn down by love that wasn’t really love. Maybe you feel like you’ve lost pieces of yourself along the way. But here’s the promise: God doesn’t just love you—He rebuilds you. He takes the broken parts and makes them whole again, stronger and more beautiful than before.
When I finally walked away from that ten-year relationship, I felt so empty at first. It was like I had let go of the only thing holding me up. But here’s the wild part: that emptiness made room for God to move in. And let me tell you, He filled every single broken place in my heart.
The love I spent years chasing could never compare to the love God has shown me. When I turned to Him, I realized I didn’t have to prove my worth or earn His affection. His love was already mine—complete, unconditional, and everlasting.
God’s love isn’t just enough—it’s MORE than enough. It doesn’t just patch you up; it rebuilds you into someone stronger, wiser, and full of purpose. And the best part? His love is constant. It doesn’t fade, fail, or fall apart.
The Courage to Walk Away: Choosing God Over Comfort
Let’s be real for a second—walking away is hard. Even when you know deep down that the relationship isn’t good for you, there’s a part of you that clings to it. Why? Because it’s familiar. Even broken love can feel better than no love at all.
That was me for years. I knew the love I was holding onto wasn’t real, but I stayed. I told myself I could make it work. I told myself it was better than nothing. But here’s the truth: holding onto counterfeit love doesn’t make you whole—it breaks you more.
Walking away isn’t just about saying goodbye to someone; it’s about saying hello to yourself—to your worth, your value, and the love God has for you.
But here’s what I learned: walking away isn’t just a choice; it’s an act of faith.
1. God’s Love Will Sustain You
When you walk away, it can feel like you’re stepping into nothingness. But God promises that He’ll catch you, guide you, and hold you up. Isaiah 41:10 is a reminder I clung to during my hardest moments:
“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
God doesn’t just cheer you on from a distance—He steps into the mess with you. He gives you the strength to take the first step and every step after that.
2. Walking Away is an Act of Faith
Here’s what I realized: leaving that relationship wasn’t just about getting away from the wrong person; it was about trusting God with my future. I had to believe that He had something better for me—even when I couldn’t see it yet.
Faith isn’t about knowing how it will all work out; it’s about believing that God is in control. It’s about saying, “Lord, I trust You more than I trust this relationship to make me happy.”
3. God Will Rebuild What is Broken
I’m not going to sugarcoat it—walking away can leave you feeling shattered. But God doesn’t leave you in pieces. He’s a master builder, and His promise in Jeremiah 31:4 is proof:
“Again I will rebuild you, and you shall be built.”
The love you’re leaving may have broken you, but God’s love will heal and rebuild you. He takes every scar, every heartbreak, and every disappointment and uses them to create something beautiful.
4. You Are Worthy of Real Love
If you’ve ever felt like you’re asking for too much or that you have to settle for less, let me remind you: you are worthy of a love that chooses you completely. And God’s love is the blueprint for that.
It’s not easy to let go, but you’re not letting go for nothing. You’re letting go to make room for everything God has for you—peace, purpose, and a love that’s real. God is walking with you. Step by step, slowly but surely, He’s leading you to something GREATER.
Conclusion: Love Worth the Wait
Walking away from love that doesn’t serve you is no small thing. It takes courage, faith, and trust in a God whose love never fails. But let me tell you—it’s worth it.
Jill Scott’s lyrics remind us that letting go is a process: “Slowly, surely.” And that’s okay. It’s not about rushing into healing or perfection. It’s about trusting the One who is walking with you every step of the way.
God’s love is patient, kind, and rebuilding. It restores your worth, heals your wounds, and leads you to a life that’s full of purpose and peace. When you let go of counterfeit love, you’re not just leaving something behind—you’re stepping into something far greater.
If you’re in a place of doubt or heartbreak right now, know this: God sees you. He loves you with an everlasting love, and He’s already at work rebuilding the pieces of your life.
A Prayer for Letting Go and Embracing God’s Love
Father God,
Thank You for loving me with an everlasting love. Thank You for being patient with me, even when I’ve held onto things that weren’t Your best for me.
Lord, I ask for the strength to walk away from any love that doesn’t reflect Your truth. Help me to trust Your promises and lean into Your faithfulness.
Rebuild the places in my heart that feel broken. Heal the wounds I’ve carried, and remind me of my worth in You. Lead me toward the life You’ve prepared for me—a life filled with peace, purpose, and the joy of knowing Your love.
In Jesus’ name, Amen!